Yes, I do believe God does bring couples together for more than just ‘controlling our desires’. Especially, when He has a ministry in mind and the couple’s combination of gifts, talents, and knowledge will be needed for success. Also, Paul tells us some ministries require you to be married in the first place (another topic for a later time!).
I also know God does set aside some of us from marriage to be free to serve Him as required – and I have the greatest admiration for them and their faith!
I do believe that if you desire a spouse, God probably does have someone out there for you. Difficulty is, that someone may not be quite what you are looking for or expecting – so you may well reject them without ever realizing this. Also, they may well not wait around for you to get your act together. Or worse, your choices in life may well leave you in a state which will make you undesirable to them! This process is pretty horrible to view as a spectator – especially when everyone is the exception and everyone ‘knows’ what is best for them.
Tell you what, if you have a history of chasing blondes, don’t try and tell me God’s choice for you is the final blonde you settle on. God is not that shallow, but you are.
Don’t try and tell anyone that ‘God’ has revealed your spouse to you and that special someone needs to marry you in the next 30 days because their visa is expiring. Sorry, God is never in a rush, but you are.
Unless something is really wrong with your relationship with God, I firmly believe He is fully capable of talking to you and letting you know when you have met the ‘right’ one. There is no need for others to reveal this to you, much less via ‘prophetic utterance’ or ‘vision’ or ‘dreams’ or whatever other such nonsense you have surrounded your faith with! Sorry, but there is no pope of marriage, I am aware of.
(My apologies to any Catholics offended by this reference, not my intent or point! But, what else do you call these self styled authorities on match-making?)
Dating a non-Christian? Playing house already? Then it is time to give that ‘special’ someone the heave-oh and get Biblical with your faith! Yes, being ‘alone’ is far superior to what you are doing to your life and faith!
In order to find qualified Christians, for dating, go to where Christian singles are: Bible Study, Church, various Christian events. Do not even think of dating someone you are not 100% certain is a solid Christian first - 1% of uncertainty – too bad, so sad, bye-bye. Of course, maybe that 1% problem can be managed or overcome, so maybe it is not ‘bye-bye’ but ‘only if fully chaperoned’. Yeah, even if you are 50, you are still not too old for a third party to see that you and the other retain both your testimonies!
There are plenty of single Christians out there, but you have to be willing to pray, seek and wait for the ‘right’ one – remembering God probably will surprise you – in time, but not now.
Waiting means you must be willing to live your life in such a way as a Godly candidate will want you in return…..
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